On June 10, at the 2021 Global Smart Logistics Summit, Alibaba CTO and Cainiao Chief Technology Officer Cheng Li announced that Cainiao will invest 1,000 logistics unmanned vehicles into campuses and communities, and revealed that Alibaba Dharma Academy and Cainiao has initiated the definition and research of open road unmanned logistics trucks.

Under the background of building vehicles in the whole industry, starting from the familiar logistics scene, and then moving to the unmanned truck freight track, it is undoubtedly the embodiment of Ali’s wisdom. Moreover, Ali’s car-building ambitions are not limited to “third-party” empowerment, especially in passenger cars. Ali not only invested in Xiaopeng, but also jointly established Zhiji Auto with SAIC and Pudong New Area, placing heavy bets. The reason may be due to self-confidence in its own autonomous driving technology.

In fact, there have been companies involved in the field of unmanned trucks, whether it is domestic Tucson Future, Pony Smart, Mainline Technology, or foreign Mercedes-Benz, Google, and even Tesla. With Ali’s entry, this field will become more active. At least, with the support of Cainiao’s data and the accumulation of autonomous driving technology of Dharma Academy, Ali should also make achievements in the field of unmanned trucks.

Didi goes public in the U.S., IPO is imminent

On June 10, U.S. Eastern Time, Didi Chuxing formally submitted an IPO application to the U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC). It plans to list on the Nasdaq Stock Market or the New York Stock Exchange under the ticker symbol “DIDI”. The amount is tentatively set at 100 million U.S. dollars.

It is understood that Didi’s IPO will raise approximately US$10 billion in funds and seek a valuation close to US$100 billion. If the listing goes well, Didi will become the largest IPO of a Chinese company in the United States since Alibaba raised $25 billion in its IPO in 2014.

From the perspective of capital, Didi seems to be a “unicorn fed by capital.” Since the day of its establishment, Didi has conducted 23 rounds of financing, with a total amount of more than 20 billion U.S. dollars. Moreover, it is Didi’s shared bicycle Qingju (valuation of US$1.9 billion), autonomous driving business (valuation of US$3.4 billion), Didi Cargo (valuation of US$2.8 billion), and Orange Heart (valuation of 1.8 billion US dollars). U.S. dollars) and other subsidiaries, the total valuation has reached nearly 10 billion U.S. dollars, not to mention its main business that occupies most of the Chinese travel market share.

In addition, Didi also defines autonomous driving, shared travel platforms, car service networks, and electric vehicles as four core strategic sectors in its prospectus. It is not difficult to see that Didi also intends to keep up with “car making”. After all, its related travel business scenarios have just solved the “mass use” demand of pure electric smart cars.

HKUST iFLYTEK has a thunderstorm, iFLYTEK’s input method is delisted, stock price plummets On June 11, iFLYTEK had a thunderstorm. Not only did the stock price drop by nearly 9.6% on that day, it was also a hot search on two microblogs called “XiTi”. The reason for this is that “the iFlytek input method was removed from the shelves of major mobile application markets” was the fuse that triggered the “thunderstorm” incident of iFlytek. Tracing back to the source, as early as May 1 this year, in the “Notice on the Illegal and Illegal Collection and Use of Personal Information by 33 Apps including Input Method” published by the National Internet Information Office, the iFLYTEK Input Method was “out of the top” and improperly collected users. Information problem. Judging from the current results, iFlytek’s rectification measures for the past one month do not seem to be in place. Therefore, the removal on June 11 is a further legal measure by the competent authority. But what is thinking is that if iFLYTEK is removed from the shelves today, will there be another XX input method coming out tomorrow? Excessive collection of user information has long become a common occurrence. But what is even more frightening is that some people are using the collected information to meticulously weave “Trumen’s world” one after another. While building information cocoon rooms, they are selling “false” beauty. But the good news is that people’s awareness of privacy is getting stronger and stronger, and the continuous removal of input methods will be a good start. Blue Origin sells its first commercial space travel ticket for $28 million On June 12, 2021, local time, an unidentified bidder bid for US$28 million (approximately RMB 180 million) to bid for Blue Origin, a space travel company owned by Amazon founder Bezos. Tickets for the first manned space flight. According to the plan previously announced by Blue Origin, the winning bidder will take the “New Shepard” (New Shepard) into space together with Bezos and his brother Mark on July 20 to embark on the first commercial tourism in space. It is reported that the first manned flight of the “New Shepard” will carry four passengers, including Bezos, Bezos’ brother, the winning bidder in this auction, and the fourth person will be announced later. On May 5 this year, Blue Origin announced the sale of a ticket for the first space cruise through an online auction. The initial bid for this ticket was 4.8 million U.S. dollars, but it exceeded 20 million U.S. dollars in the first few minutes of the auction. According to reports, the auction proceeds will be donated to Blue Origin’s education-focused non-profit organization “Future Club”, which provides support to young people interested in future science and engineering careers. BYD President Wang Chuanfu clarified “Persuade Lei Jun not to build a car” On June 13, at the 2021 China Automotive Chongqing Forum, BYD President Wang Chuanfu made a special clarification in response to his remarks three days ago that he advised Xiaomi not to build cars. Wang Chuanfu said: “There are reports that BYD persuades the founder of Xiaomi Technology Lei Jun not to build a car. This is wrong. Lei Jun and we have a very good cooperative relationship. We OEM a large number of Xiaomi phones and are strategic partners.” According to media reports, on June 10, Wang Chuanfu said at the Yabuli China Entrepreneurs Forum: “There are not many companies that have the advantage of making cars. Lei’s total investment of 100 billion yuan may be a loss of money and a waste of time.” No The young media interpreted it as “Wang Chuanfu advised Lei Jun not to build a car.” In general, this incident may not be counted as an Oolong by BYD. Moreover, the news of Lei Jun’s visits to major car companies continues, and BYD is also unable to push the partners who have been sent to the door. But the strategic direction and time-consuming thinking is indeed something that companies like Xiaomi need to do. Although, with the blessing of various large flows, the “cake” of “car building” is getting bigger and bigger, but cars must not only be built, but they must also survive. As President Wang Chuanfu said, there are three key points for making a car to “survive”. The first is to have core competitiveness; the second is to have a very precise strategy; and the third is to have a rapid decision-making mechanism. New energy vehicles are a new thing, and there are many routes, but if the route is skewed, it may suffer heavy losses. Cruise receives US$5 billion support from GM, and Waymo raises another US$2.5 billion On June 16, GM officially announced that GM Finance will provide Cruise with a $5 billion multi-year credit line to help the operation and expansion of Cruise Origin’s self-driving fleet. GM’s move is not only a further boost to autonomous driving, but also shows GM’s determination and confidence in the commercialization of Cruise. Coincidentally, the commercialization of the Cruise Dubai cooperation and the California unmanned vehicle passenger “license” is in full swing; Waymo, whose CEO and CFO have just resigned, has also begun to add weights, raising $2.5 billion in a lump sum. “Hot Money”. It is reported that Waymo’s financing news was also announced on June 16, investors including Google parent company Alphabet, Andreessen Horowitz, AutoNation, Canada Pension Plan Investment Commission and other major capital. It has to be said that Waymo’s ability to attract funds is commendable, after all, after this financing, its valuation has reached 30 billion US dollars. But the increasingly serious problem of brain drain is also becoming a shackle of Waymo. In other words, as the concept of smart car making is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, the competition for talent will become more and more serious. OnePlus merged with OPPO, is it an “Oga” mobile phone or an “Oga” car? On June 16, OnePlus CEO Liu Zuohu released an internal email, announcing that OnePlus mobile phones will be fully integrated with OPPO, and OnePlus will also become an independent brand of OPPO. This is another big move since OPPO exposed the car. OnePlus and OPPO are in the same line. Although both are independent brands, from a capital perspective, both OnePlus and OPPO are controlled by Ouga Holdings, which is also the basic condition for the two to merge. It is reported that as early as August last year, news of Liu Zuohu’s return to OPPO has flowed out on the Internet. At that time, OPPO gave the response: Liu Zuohu will return as the senior vice president of Ouga Holdings, and is fully responsible for the product planning and experience of Ouga . Of course, from the mobile phone market, the integration of the two will further strengthen OPPO’s market weight in the field of smart phones. However, the organization and personnel adjustments between OPPO and OnePlus seem to be related to car manufacturing issues. OPPO CEO Chen Mingyong may intend to let Liu Zuohu participate in part of the car building work, and Liu Zuohu also recently visited Li Xiang, the founder of Ideal Auto. C-dimensional star list/Tu Datong Reasons for the list: It can provide the most powerful hybrid solid-state lidar that has been installed in mass-produced models Innovusion, established in November 2016, is headquartered in Suzhou. It is an entrepreneurial company with the nature of a supplier. Its main research areas involve lidar, autonomous driving, and smart transportation. The founders are Bao Junwei and Li Yimin, both of whom are typical engineering masters and have more than 20 years of work experience. In January of this year, the cooperation between Tudatong and NIO revealed that on NIO DAY2020, the latest NIO ET7 equipped with a lidar provided by Tudacom officially entered the stage of history. It is understood that the radar has an ultra-wide viewing angle of 120 degrees, a high resolution equivalent to 300 lines, and a maximum detectable distance of 500 meters. Taking advantage of the hot spots of ET7, in May of this year, Tu Datong completed the B round of financing, the latest valuation of 300 million US dollars, a total of 64 million US dollars in financing. This round of financing was jointly invested by Temasek, BAI Capital and Joy Capital. Old shareholders NIO Capital, Stow Capital and F-Prime also participated. 1. Founder Bao Junwei & Li Yimin Second, best practices Tudatong claims to be the world’s first 300-line high-definition ultra-long range lidar provider. Related lidar products are mainly used in smart transportation, smart high-speed, urban rail transit, and mining. In addition to the dream linkage with Weilai, Tudatong also has related cooperation with Baidu. At present, Tudatong’s image-level long-range lidar has been deployed in Baidu’s Apollo intelligent transportation city project, including Beijing, Changsha, Cangzhou and other places. It is understood that Tudatong’s lidar products mainly include: Jaguar Elite Edition (for smart cities), and Aquila lidar (Falcon architecture) carried on Weilai ET7. See the figure below for details: Three, technical route TuDatong believes that lidar is the inevitable result of the evolution of autonomous driving. Compared with mechanical rotary lidar and solid-state lidar, hybrid solid-state radar has more advantages. In addition to being smaller and lower cost than mechanical rotary lidar, it is also more realizable than pure solid-state lidar. The lower the difficulty and the stronger the certainty, the easier it is to achieve. In addition, the standard detection distance of 300 lines and 250m is the other two points that Tudatong insists on. With a resolution of less than 300 lines, the human eye will miss some important information due to the large distance between the lidar wire harness and the wire harness when looking at the picture, which may be reflected in the perception system of the autonomous vehicle. Cause a traffic accident. The standard detection distance of 250m is because when an autonomous vehicle is driving at a high speed of 120km/h, the safe distance that can be reliably sensed is at least 250m. Fourth, there is a “money” way According to Tianyan Check, since 2017, Tudatong has experienced four rounds of financing, namely seed round, A round, strategic financing and the most recent B round of financing. The latest valuation reached 300 million U.S. dollars. Among them, it is worth noting that Weilai went directly off the market and participated in Tudatong’s A round and B rounds of financing. In addition to being optimistic about the lidar industry, it is also an affirmation of Tudatong’s technical capabilities

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Negative interest on credit When it suddenly costs you to save

As of: 06/18/2021 8:58 a.m.

Up to now, banks have mainly charged new customers with negative interest rates. It also affects existing customers more and more frequently. Consumer advocates advise to be clear about what you want to do with the money.

From Iris Völlnagel, SWR

Anger and complaints from consumers are part of everyday life for Josephine Holzhäuser, financial expert at the consumer center in Rhineland-Palatinate. But since the beginning of the year, more and more consumers have come to her who have left their financial institutions “betrayed and sold” feel. The reason: More and more banks and savings banks are introducing negative interest rates on current and savings accounts.

More than 345 institutes collect negative interest

Many older people, but also younger ones, now sought advice from consumer advocates. Most of them have been customers for years, have taken out their mortgage lending or insurances with the banks, and now they are being threatened with termination if they are not willing to pay negative interest, says Holzhäuser. “From my point of view, this is a clumsy business practice.” People feel compelled and pressured. Many older people are overwhelmed – especially those who are not so fit online. Since the beginning of the year, more than 170 banks and savings banks in Germany have introduced negative interest rates. This is the result of a study on the www.biallo.de Internet portal. Every third bank only grants an allowance of 25,000 euros. The consumer portal Verivox also regularly researches and publishes the product overviews and price lists of around 1,300 credit institutions that are accessible online. As a result, more than 345 banks have now introduced negative interest rates for private customers. 19 banks charge fees for the call money account, which is usually free of charge. This also creates a de facto negative interest rate. In addition, there are the banks that do not publish any information, according to Verivox. Most recently, Postbank announced that it would lower the exemption limits for savings deposits on June 21 and one for new customers “Custody fee” from 50,000 euros on the current account and 25,000 euros on the daily allowance account. Contributions above this limit are charged with 0.5 percent. So far, the tax exemption has been 100,000 euros.

Banks point their fingers at the ECB

As a reason for that “Custody fee” the financial institutions repeatedly claim that they themselves pay negative interest rates to the European Central Bank (ECB). In 2014 it began to charge penalty interest on money that the commercial banks park in their central bank accounts. However, the banks are now granted exemptions. Critics therefore complain that the financial houses are doing business with negative interest rates.

This practice will not change in the foreseeable future, fears consumer advocate Holzhäuser. “If one bank does it, the others follow suit. If the pace continues, one no longer looks to see which bank has no negative interest, but from which tax exemption”, so wooden houses. David Bode from the legal enforcement team of the Federal Association of Consumer Organizations knows whether the introduction of negative interest is generally permissible. The association has filed suits at different courts in several federal states. It concerns both current and overnight money accounts. How long the litigation will take is difficult to estimate, according to Bode. There could possibly be first judgments in the current calendar year. In the end, the Federal Court of Justice may have to decide.

Consumers in a bind

A basic distinction should be made between existing and new customers. The latter advises the financial expert Holzhäuser to look at the small print before signing the contract. In the meantime, it is noted in the general terms and conditions whether negative interest is charged above a certain amount.

This is different with existing customers, where changes require an individual agreement. In the past year, the banks would have allowed existing customers to talk to them. In the meantime, the banks are going to terminate their business relationships. “That has another dimension”, so the consumer advocate. “As a customer, I then have to decide whether to sign or not.” In the meantime, however, she advises signing more and more often, according to Holzhäuser. “If people want to stay with the bank, they have to bite the bullet and watch the further case law.” If you don’t want to sign, you shouldn’t wait for the bank to give notice of termination, advises the consumer advocate. “We cannot yet assess how such a termination will affect Schufa, for example.” Alternatively, consumers could look for a new bank. As a rule, you have some time because the bank contacts its customers one to two months in advance.

Shift money, check investments

Many banks charged negative interest for amounts in excess of 100,000 euros. This corresponds to the amount of the deposit protection; that is, the amount for which the bank guarantees in the event of a total failure. If you have more in your account, you should distribute your money between several accounts at different institutions, according to the advice of the financial expert.

After all, everyone should check why they have so much money in their account at all, according to the consumer advocate. The following also applies: do not accept every offer without review. “In case of doubt, it is better to go with negative interest than to invest the money headlong.” A unit-linked annuity insurance with a term of twelve years is not an adequate offer for people over 70, according to Holzhäuser. You can also deposit the money in a locker or safe at any time. Just leaving it at home is the worst option because of the risk of theft, according to the financial expert

Recently, Elly Tran continues to make fans “stand still” when publishing a series of extremely sexy chiffon bikini photos. These photos quickly received a lot of likes, hearts and comments. She uses her pet dog to cover the sensitive area in the costume… The photo angles show off the perfect body, as beautiful as a dream. Many very personal viewers commented: “If it’s a crime to fall in love with you, I’ll commit a crime …” to “Don’t wear this style anymore, we love it”… So funny is the same. . Once long legs. cause a fever with swimsuit-like designs but extremely fragile, sexy lace material. Not only the material is light and soft, but the outfit also has a deep cut, quite bold. The shooting angles are also very impressive, showing a sexy look without being overdone. Realistic curve… Long legs are exalted… Venus’s body is very proud of Elly.

Like how he surprised, this press conference was no exception. Accordingly, from June 14, many people “fall back” when they received the notice of the CEO of this tens of billions of dollars in the status line on their personal Facebook: “Press conference will be held tomorrow Tuesday, June 15, 2021 on YouTube broadcast at 9:00 AM – 11:30 AM “. Mr. Nguyen Vu Quoc Anh, General Director of Auto Investment Group in an online “press conference”. The CEO’s online “press conference” attracted hundreds of views at the same time with the same number of comments. Most of them are people out of curiosity, want to see how. The content of the comments were all encapsulated in the advice of Nguyen Vu Quoc Anh “to be confused, less explosive, less delusional”. Some people also think that the CEO of Auto Investment Group is “crazy” when holding a press conference but only monologues with the computer. At the beginning of the story, Nguyen Vu Quoc Anh shared the company’s “great” ambition with the desire to digitally transform businesses and state agencies as well as individual business households; oriented to become a technology corporation representing Vietnam to the world to compete with other illustrious corporations to bring foreign currency to Vietnam. “This year’s revenue is expected to be about 10,000 billion from July to December. Since we have not been able to promote the markets of India, the US and China, I have not been able to open it yet, at the end of this June I will open the markets. this to bring in revenue for our market.Of course people think the number is huge but to me it is nothing. In 2022, I have to bring in 1 billion USD, don’t say our corporation is a startup, I am not a statup, if you think I am a startup, you are wrong. We go 500 times faster than the startup, next year’s revenue of 1 billion USD is not big for me, only approximately 25,000 billion VND. By 2023 – 2025 trying to bring in 30 billion USD, this number is formidable. We will cover 250 countries… In 2025-2027, the revenue is 50 billion USD, this number is really not small but also not big with our vision. In 2025, we will build a financial business center and automatic replication in Vietnam, if it is favorable, we will build 17 buildings representing 17 of our companies. Investment capital is about 30 billion USD, I said I will make it. CEO Auto Investment Group promises. The online “press conference” of the “big CEO” attracted hundreds of views at the same time with the same number of comments. With these huge numbers, it seems that everyone will pay special attention, but most followers just want to know how much money Anh’s huge corporation has “stored” in the account. However, his answer was once again shocking: “I have a lot of gray matter, I don’t have money right now, but if I have gray matter, I will have it all” . To make the argument convincing, Mr. Nguyen Vu Quoc Anh mentioned potential investment sources that can be easily mobilized: “Please Mr. Hai, Mr. Ba, Mr. Tu, Mr. Nam (big businesses in Vietnam) to support his brother, each person contributing a few billion dollars to the youngest brother is also an ok number… I want you alone. youngest brother, I wish my parents were the State. My brother and I are the big men of Vietnam who have the support of the youngest, of course we go out and play with them. It’s as simple as that.” For more than 1 hour “hosting the online press conference”, the information “remains” in the followers that this is an 8X CEO with “superior talent”. Because, through the information shared, it can be confirmed that at the moment, Nguyen Vu Quoc Anh does not have much. According to the research of PV VTC News, the Global Auto Technology Investment Group Joint Stock Company has its head office located on the 46th floor, Bitexco Financial Tower building (2 Hai Trieu Street, Ben Nghe, District 1, Ho Chi Minh City). .HCM). This company has 3 founding shareholders, in which Mr. Nguyen Vu Quoc Anh contributed VND 499,998 billion and 2 other individuals contributed VND 1 billion each, Nguyen Thi Diem Hang and Luu Huu Thien. The comments are all encapsulated in the advice of Nguyen Vu Quoc Anh to “be less confused, less explosive, less delusional”. Immediately after the announcement, this information immediately attracted the attention of many people. Because with the above charter capital, this enterprise is far ahead of the leading economic groups in Vietnam at the moment. However, according to the actual research of PV VTC News, the office address on the 46th floor, Bitexco Financial Tower building that Mr. Nguyen Vu Quoc Anh registered the company’s headquarters in is a virtual office. This office is currently operated by Compass Office (an enterprise specializing in providing virtual and serviced office rental services). Currently, the group’s only location is the private house of the CEO of 8X himself, an old grade 4 house on 3rd Street (Neighborhood 2, Phuoc Binh Ward, Thu Duc City, Ho Chi Minh City).

Since the biggest love scandal in his career, Nam Em is still facing a bad health and psychological condition. This causes the 9X beauty to lose weight erratically and especially recently, Nam Em looks clearly skinny. She is also often “missing” from social networks, making fans worried. And after many days of absence, Miss Mekong Delta recently returned with a fresher state. Nam Em also did not hesitate to show off her bare face or show off her figure in the pictures posted on her personal page, making fans admire and admire. In the new photos, Nam Em, even though she is fully dressed, has not lost her charm. That’s because she cleverly showed off her long white legs “thousands of people love”. Sharing the moment of showing off the angle of his face, Nam Em is ready to prove his beautiful face without dead corners and crystal clear skin. Even though she didn’t touch the lipstick, her hair was tied up simply, but in the 9X beauties she was still beautiful. Although her current face is quite emaciated, lacking a bit of vitality. Below the comment section, fans also pay much attention to the re-appearance of the original long-legged Tien Giang. Although some comments praised Nam Em’s physique, there were also opinions that she should not tie all her hair up because it would make her face longer. It can be said that, already quite thin, he also chose a hairstyle that revealed his long face, which is also the reason why Nam Em’s recent appearance is always less fresh as well as his face looks somewhat unbalanced. Just compared with a slight change in the hairstyle, the appearance of 9X beauties is somewhat more beautiful and attractive, the face ratio is also somewhat harmonious. From the case of Nam Em, the association of sisters with long faces also learned an important note in the matter of hair that is not to flip or brush all the hair back. Because this will make the forehead become wider, easy to create a feeling of baldness or the rough chin is brought forward a lot. Instead, you should pay more attention in choosing the right hairstyle according to principles such as: – Focus on shortening the length of the face and reducing the height for the forehead: To help the long face have a more balanced proportion, bangs are the most ideal choice. However, not all types of bangs are suitable for long faces, so they should prioritize flat bangs, thin bangs, curled bangs, puffy bangs… In addition, bangs should also account for 1/3 of the face length. create the perfect ratio. Just change a bit in the bangs with a flying bangs or sparse bangs, you can overcome the disadvantages of the optimal long face. In addition, you also consider bending waves to make the face look soft and gentle. – Increase face width: Through styling, women can help improve the width of the face to bring a more perfect proportion to the “moon face”. Accordingly, wavy hair, curly hair, curled layer hair … can all create the illusion that the width and length of the face become more harmonious. The long-faced sisters can also increase the width of the face, reduce the length by switching to friends with lob hair. This hairstyle not only “hacks the age” but also helps the face look baby and fuller. – Stay away from hairstyles that create volume on the top of the head: Hairstyles with a lot of bulge at the top of the head, high ponytail, high bun or long straight hair will increase the length of the face. Therefore, a simple hairstyle that you can pursue is a layered cut. You also need to pay attention to choose how to trim the layer in the right position to conceal the face. Long straight hair is not only monotonous, but also contributes to making the face look longer, therefore, S-shaped curling hair combined with puffy bangs is the true love for women to reshape their faces, bringing them to life. youthful, harmonious look. – Dyeing hair to improve face shape: You may not know, in addition to styling, hair color also contributes to adjusting the lines on a very long face. Dyeing your hair a light color will avoid focusing too much on facial features. In addition, highlight hair color or ombre hair can also help a long face become more balanced. Looking at the difference between the two left and right pictures of this girl with a long face, the sisters will immediately recognize it just by dyeing her hair in a light color and choosing the right hair style, having silly bangs that cover her high forehead is enough to own glittering visuals.

1. Giving advice at the wrong time

How many times have you felt compelled to give advice to someone even when not asked? This mistake in communication often comes from love and concern. When you love someone, you want them to be better, and that’s okay. But the fact that we often give unnecessary advice will often backfire.

It always happens in relationships when we really want to help the person improve, but don’t think about whether they need our advice or not. “Honesty is the best policy”, but sometimes we take it too far. If you hear yourself trying to say, “I think you should …” or “This isn’t good about you,” notice, you may be about to give some advice that others don’t want to hear.

Appropriate approach: If you feel that it’s important to advise someone, you have two options for how to approach your audience. You can ask for the person’s opinion and get his or her permission, before giving advice, or you can try to reassure them that your advice is constructive.

Asking someone for advice doesn’t always work because that person may say they don’t want to hear these things. If they don’t want to hear what you have to say, the only thing you can do is keep quiet and let the person figure it out on his own.

2. Ignore their feelings when they need you

Our emotions fluctuate often and, unfortunately, we cannot be happy all the time. We may feel stressed at work, sad at something happened, or frustrated by not getting what we want. The greatest sadness comes from feeling that the person who should know us best cannot recognize our painful feelings.

Imagine your spouse comes home from a stressful day at work. You have not even let them tell your story, immediately give advice. You think you are helping them and trying to fix the problem for them. But that approach has never been highly effective.

Not only do you fall into the first mistake of giving advice at the wrong time, you are also seen as ignoring the other person’s needs at the time. Your ex may want to discuss or solve problems with you sometimes, but when they come home from a tiring day, the only thing they need is to be heard.

Appropriate approach: Respect the other’s feelings by listening to them. Use proactive listening and avoid trying to fix the problem for them right away. Even if the problem seems minor to you, avoid trivializing their emotions. You can help him or her find solutions later, but at first just acknowledge their thoughts and feelings.

3. Don’t give any advice to the other party

If the past problems have been about giving too much information, then there are many people who are mistaken in not giving any advice.

Imagine your ex coming to you to suggest a place for your anniversary. Instead of listing a few options with them, you answer by: “I / I don’t know” or “It depends, you are fine with whatever you choose.”

You think you are showing comfort and flexibility, but that is not the message you are sending to the other person. He or she comes to you because they want suggestions and advice from you and answers like don’t care or don’t want to take any responsibility for decision-making that really makes others feel uncomfortable. bear. You don’t have to come up with a definitive answer, but they want to see that you are willing to come up with some contributing ideas about the problem in general.

Appropriate approach: When someone asks for your response, take a moment to review their request. You don’t have to solve the problem for them, but you can help them think about the situation from a new perspective.