But in moments when I thought I couldn’t raise my head, I still had my grandmother’s family to protect and comfort me. Especially my sister is the one who helps the most. Contrary to her sister’s difficult marriage, she is very satisfied with her husband and children. In addition, my sister’s stable career is also considered as a solid support for her sister. From a housewife without a job, I began to be taught little by little about using computers, editing documents, knowing how to make spreadsheets… Thanks to a little knowledge of accounting When I was in college, I quickly got a job in a family business. At the beginning, I only made about 3 million salary/month – a meager number but I am still happy because it is my own money. Unlike when I lived with my ex-husband, I had to ask for everything. Illustration. Please allow me to tell you a little bit about the time when I was still a bride in that house. I married him quite quickly, the relationship only lasted a while when I received the news that I was pregnant. So we can also temporarily call this a “run-and-run wedding”. Because my situation is not comparable to the other house, my mother-in-law often shows contempt for her daughter-in-law, considering me nothing. In particular, when I got married, I knew well the character of my ex-husband. It was a man who was a parasite to his parents, lazy to work, liked to drink, and a prostitute. When I witnessed the hot clip of my husband and lover with my own eyes, I was shocked both literally and figuratively. And because of that incident, I had a miscarriage. The more painful consequence was that I lost my motherhood forever. Depressed, desperate, I fell into a state of depression for many months. I can’t count how many divorce papers I’ve written and then tore it up myself. Accidentally seeing my ex-mother-in-law, she must have guessed my thoughts and said frankly and ruthlessly so that I could quickly end this marriage. And there, I finally left in a daze. Three and a half years have passed since my divorce. Life is very different now, even the current salary of 3 million dong is 4, 5 times higher. I am very happy, being with my parents to take care of them, sometimes going to my sister’s house to play. Once in a while, if I’m lonely, I’ll find a guy to drink water, talk about life, and have no long-term intentions. Illustration. About a month ago, I received a text from a friend who played with me and my ex-husband. He said my ex-husband had a serious illness and was being treated in the hospital. To tell the truth, over the years I no longer care to have anything to do with him, sometimes there are rumors that he got married and broke up with nothing. Now hearing this news, part of me feels like retribution for him, the other part is sympathetic. Anyway, the two of them had a bit of a sweet time. I texted a friend to ask where my ex-husband was undergoing treatment to visit. My sister also told me to come along. My sister and I went to the hospital and found our ex-husband and his mother there. Just put the fruit bag with a little envelope of 1 million dong inside it on the table, the ex-mother-in-law sullenly frowned and said: “It’s so precious, now there’s an ex-wife to visit.” The ex-husband was giving water so he fell asleep. I only asked a few questions, but my mother-in-law even threw a stack of papers at her. When I lifted it up, it was all hospital bills. She also said sarcastically: “Don’t think that coming here today, seeing my son dying, thinking that he will inherit the property. Only this pile of hospital bills is left, you can take it if you want! You have ruined my son’s life.” My sister was angry and was about to have a duel but I was able to stop her. Finally, I greeted her and left with her. It is incomprehensible, after all these years, the mother-in-law still hates her ex-daughter-in-law. It is true that there are still such selfish and narrow-minded people in this world!

Recently, I’ve been busy with work, so I can’t come home early to pick up my children. My mother-in-law was convenient to pick up the son of her brother-in-law’s family, so I asked her to pick up my son as well. Because the two kids go to the same school. I also do not ask my mother-in-law for nothing. From the day she picked me up, I sent her 1 million dong every month. I do it to feel comfortable. I don’t like to ask for help from others. The school is about 1km from my house. Mother-in-law is old and can’t ride a motorbike, so she has to walk pick up the kids . g, I also feel secure. After all, this is also her grandson, she must also be responsible. Illustration. At first I didn’t see anything out of the ordinary. But recently, every time I pick up my child from my mother-in-law’s house, I see her crying out in pain. My hands have many bruises, scratches and scrapes. Thinking that I was being bullied by my classmates, I called the homeroom teacher and received the answer: “The children in class are very good. There is no fighting. I do not believe you can monitor the camera of the classroom. “. I also watch the camera. Indeed, my child never fought with his classmates. I told this story to my mother-in-law, hoping that she would pay more attention to her when she picked me up. However, my mother-in-law was sober, and pouted her lips: “Oh yeah, there are 3 bruises. Sometimes she messed with her classmates and caused it without remembering. But when I picked it up, I didn’t see anything. often”. The bruises and scratches on my child’s hands are increasing day by day. This scar has just faded, a new bruise appears… Then I decided to take an early leave from work one day to pick up my son. I want to find out where my child’s hand injuries come from. I did not tell my mother-in-law about this. I still let her pick her up normally. Partly because I was afraid of her thinking, the other part I wanted to investigate quietly. Then at 5 o’clock, the gate of the kindergarten began to have many parents come to pick up their children and grandchildren. I quickly realized that my mother-in-law was also lined up among them. My baby rushed out and politely greeted her. But still had to wait for her to pick up her brother. Look at the sweaty baby and feel sorry. It must be very hot, but I don’t know how to ask her to fan it. 3 granddaughters lazily returned. I go from afar to monitor. Only then did I realize the anomaly. Even though her brother-in-law’s son is a younger brother, he is older than my daughter in terms of age. That boy was aggressive and bullied her while walking. My son is already carrying his backpack, but still has to carry his own. That’s it, the other boy teased me while walking, punching, poking and biting again.. But most frustrating is the attitude of the grandmother. My mother-in-law doesn’t care, she still goes as usual. When my son got angry, cried and hit the other boy, my mother-in-law defended him. She pinched my child’s hand and shouted: “You have to give me up. Crying about something. Will you hurry up so I can cook rice?” When I saw that scene, I was shocked and indignant. I rode up in front of my mother-in-law and two young children. Seeing me, my daughter was overjoyed, quickly wiped her tears, repeatedly clapped her hands and shouted “mom, mom…”. I asked why the mother-in-law treated the children like that, and she argued without doing anything. It’s normal for children to fight. But when I raised the red spot on my son’s hand, she turned around and said, “I teach him but he doesn’t listen. Your son is very stubborn. If you don’t teach him, he’ll be bad. And his grandson later asks for help, But when the granddaughter grows up, she will get married…”. I eagerly picked up the child in the car, drove straight home and didn’t say a word to my mother-in-law. Because at that time, I was very angry. If we continue to argue, I am afraid that I will act badly. I brought this story to my husband. He was also very angry, saying that every child is a grandchild, why is his mother so biased. But then he advised me to ignore this, because after all, she is the grandmother of the children and my mother-in-law, we still have to ask a lot. I was angry at my mother-in-law, and my anger spread to my husband. Your mother is so clearly wrong, but you can still say it!

Where are the leaves and flowers – a wild plant that grows a lot in An Giang. Photo: Tourism Newspaper Prohoc sauce (prohok – boo hoc), according to my mother-in-law, the climate in the South has two seasons: rainy and sunny. In addition to the rice season, the fish season is also the main season of the Khmer farmers in the South. They catch fish in many forms such as slapping or fishing, spreading nets, fishing nets, etc. Where they can be caught, they can be dried there with large fish, while small fish are made into beef sauce. Every house makes two or three jars to eat all year round. Bo hoc sauce is almost considered as the main dish in the culinary life of the Khmer people as well as the Vietnamese people’s snakehead, choke, and roe sauces. Although their way of making prohoc fish sauce is similar to that in Cambodia, but through the stages to become bohoc sauce, it is necessary that there is no longer a musty smell, especially without maggots. Usually they use snakehead fish more than other types of fish, of course, snakehead fish to make fish sauce will be more delicious. Select suffocated snakehead fish, scrape the scales, scrape the blood on the spine, wash and soak in cold water for a day and a night (24g), then take it out and leave it in a basket to drain. Use a knife to gradually fish the fish, add a small pinch of salt and a little cold rice, mix well. Incubate in a sealed container, the next day take out the fish and place it in a thick basket, cover the basket with a piece of mocha, use a rock or heavy object to ballast the water with a fishy smell. Then, put the fish in a jar or glass glue, use your hands to receive the fish easily, cut the mo areca to fit the mouth of the jar or glue it on, use a bamboo brace to fasten it. Then proceed to cook salt water poured over the fish and then dried in the sun. About three months, the fish sauce can be eaten, but only used for making stewed, fried, seasoned soups, cooked vermicelli or cooked with potted rice noodles with shaved corn with straw mushrooms and snakehead fish or shrimp. If you want to eat it raw, you must leave it for a year or more, the longer you leave it, the more delicious it will be. Beef broth of Khmer people. Usually fish sauce is eaten raw with thinly sliced ​​​​fruit or paired with herbs of all kinds. In particular, when cooking vermicelli, fish meat is shredded, boned, put in a mortar with wormwood vermicelli, boiled, combed for water, then added fresh snakehead fish, pork, minced lemongrass into the pot of water. leo. Those who have never eaten prahoc sauce, when they heard the name mentioned, they were afraid. But if you happen to stand in the wind, someone is cooking fish sauce, the sense of smell can enjoy a faint aroma mixed between the pungent smell of brewed fish and the sweet aroma of fish sauce. That taste makes us drowsy, listening to the hungry stomach. Having a sip of spinach soup or a bowl of vermicelli, there was nothing happier than that. Happier if you can eat a piece of raw fish sauce sandwiched with the fruit, the sour and sour taste of the fish sauce mixed with the sweet and fragrant taste of the fish sauce, the warm and spicy taste of minced lemongrass, dissolved in a sip of wine cooked with rice, is nothing better. It’s like listening to the wine pushing the fish sauce and slowly drifting into the throat, slowly ripening… gradually…, falling into the stomach. Please bear with me, I don’t know what language to use to describe all that “delicious” pleasure! Where is the dried gourd salad with choke fish . Photo: Tourism Newspaper At home, my wife gently washes each bunch of young leaves, each tiny bunch of tiny aluminum flakes, drains before mixing the salad with cucumber, thinly sliced ​​tomatoes, and purple onions. Similar to the way to mix durian salad of the Vietnamese people in Sam mountain (Chau Doc, An Giang), it is mixed with dried snakehead fish, shredded grilled snakehead fish or with shrimp, tiger, boiled bacon cut into pieces and eaten together. coriander leaves. But, with the Khmer it is a little different. After washing vegetables, tomatoes are grated into thin circles; thinly sliced ​​purple onion; cilantro, chopped coriander only; chili, minced garlic. After that, my wife started to process the mixed water and put the cooked tamarind in a bowl to make boiling water, stirring to dissolve the tamarind rice. Then she began to process the mixed water, using cooked tamarind in a bowl or cup, boiling water in, stirring with chopsticks until the sour substance was diluted in the water. Prahoc sauce is also put in a bowl, add boiling water, and crumble until the meat is broken. Then, comb the water to decant the fish baits and bones. Crush garlic, chili, add a little granulated sugar and then add two kinds of tamarind juice, fish sauce, stir well, sweet and sour seasoning. When the shrimp or tiger is cooked, take it out, take out the cooked meat and cut it into thin pieces. Put both in a bowl of vegetables, add the mixed water, mix well with the leaves and flowers, then start enjoying. Unlike at home, where I sit to eat on a chair around the table, Khmer people eat on a plank, all the dishes are arranged in the heart of the board. Everyone in the family, along with my father’s two brothers and my (mother’s) brother, my wife sat cross-legged around the tray of rice. My father is the oldest person in the family, holding a cup and chopsticks to invite: “Each oot kho nia hop bai” (the whole family eats rice). I took each chopsticks of salad into my mouth, chewed slowly, the sweet and sour taste of cucumber, tomato, the spicy taste of garlic, chili, laksa leaves, coriander mixed with the sweetness of shrimp meat, the fat of pork belly. shine in the district with the sweet and bitter taste of sorrow. All of these are imbued with the sweet aroma of beef sauce, creating a delicious taste. Sorrow salad is no longer a favorite dish for men to sip with kh Kha wine, there is nothing better than telling stories in gatherings. My father-in-law holds a bottle of wine that is fermented with home-cooked glutinous rice that my uncle and I bring in according to the Khmer custom in the days of Sene Dolta (anniversary ceremony). He poured out a small glass, clear drops of wine slowly sparkling, showing a very high alcohol concentration. Picking up the glass, he said: “Onh Chon ate every ounce of happiness” (inviting everyone to drink wine). He brought a glass of wine to his lips, gulped it down, then wheezed, said: “Sê Chchanh” (good wine) and then poured a pass for each person. When I came to my circle, I refused because the wine was too strong, but my uncle said: “Num salinh top brother chon” (Ba Thuong Ba just invited). Hearing that, I couldn’t refuse and reached out to accept the wine glass. Before drinking, I picked up a chopsticks of salad, put it in my mouth, chewed it slowly, enjoying the sweet aroma, then swallowed, then gulped down the glass with my breath, the spicy alcohol on the surface of my tongue and then “swallowed” the salad pieces for them. drifting slowly, slowly, heating up as if they were ripening, softening and disintegrating. Enjoying this delicious dish, I realized that, no matter how sad, but when chewing a piece of melancholy salad, the sorrow is also broken and blended into the delicious taste that gradually drifts down to the stomach, leaving only a sweet, bitter aftertaste on the tip of the tongue that we always feel like eating more! Chau Doc (An Giang), where is known as the “kingdom” of fish sauce. Photo: Huynh LamTGTT On that day, when the cool winds swayed the surface of the Hau River, the first rain of the April season watered the fields and awakened the young shrimps that were still sleeping in spring in the shells clinging to the field or in frogs and crab burrows. , eels, snakes… At that time, the uncles started a self-reliant life. This is also the time when Khmer farmers are busy for the rice sowing season. The lush green carpets grow with the water. The shrimps are also growing up. By the middle of the eighth month of the lunar calendar, the rice begins to ripen and the fields are golden, and people are anxious for the harvest. The fields are drained and the water flows down the canals and canals. This is the season of catching shrimp. Children, adults, women, young people, anyone can participate. People use bamboo slats, walk in the deep corners of the fields or use fine nets to drag along the canals. But the most common is to use scrubbing to place the free place to drain the water flowing down the canals to catch shrimp. Shrimp is an inexpensive source of wild food, but rich in protein, calcium, and easy to prepare. Can be boiled with rice paper, raw vegetables; fried dough; warehouse; roasted… but the best is to make fish sauce. The Khmer shrimp paste, called bo-ot, is different from the type of shrimp paste we usually use. The method is also simple, but must be carefully selected, remove moss, snail shells, dead leaves, grass, garbage, etc. Most importantly, remove the ones on the head with luminous substance by putting the shrimp in the ball. dark for easy viewing. If chosen incorrectly, when making fish sauce, it is easy to be poisoned. After choosing, wash, and use 1kg of shrimp with a high concentration of base wine, 50gr of granulated salt, marinate, cover for about 30 minutes, drain water, mix in a cup of cold rice, 100g of white granulated sugar, Get the cloves into the glue. About three days later, add chopped ginger, garlic, and crushed chili, mix well into the glue. Try eating a piece of ginger, if it tastes sour, the fish sauce has been eaten. Bo-ot fish sauce is very delicious, sour, sweet, aromatic, spicy… stimulating the digestive system, it is difficult for any kind of shrimp paste to be compared with its unique flavor. Shrimp sauce is served with raw vegetables of all kinds along with fresh vermicelli, rice paper and pineapple, acrid banana, sour fruit, thin slices when the family has an anniversary, party… But it is also used as food in daily meals. family day. When eating sandwich with grilled catfish, beef sauce gives me its wonderful taste, so I can’t help but “work hard” to bring my wife back to visit her family whenever I have the opportunity. And every time, besides visiting the health of my wife’s parents, and then gathering around the family tray of rice, I often enjoy the unique taste of beef sauce and beef sauce in a meal full of love. feel dear!

In the program Weekend story On VTV this week, there was the appearance of a female artist loved by many audiences – People’s Artist Kim Xuan. Here, People’s Artist Kim Xuan had a conversation with MC Ngo Nhu Quynh and Psychological Doctor To Nhi A about a topic that is considered eternal in family life, which is the relationship between mother-in-law and the bride.

The relationship between mother-in-law – bride-in-law is a long and controversial topic not only in Vietnam but also in the world. Usually, people think that daughter-in-law is always at a disadvantage in this story. But perhaps times have changed when so many mothers now have to come together to share and learn how to be a mother-in-law. And from the perspective of People’s Artist Kim Xuan, many people have to be confused.

People’s Artist Kim Xuan: “I learned how to be a mother-in-law unconsciously”

People’s Artist Kim Xuan said that the common mentality of mothers, including mothers-in-law who have a daughter to marry, is mostly prejudiced about this relationship. The female artist pointed out that the individualism was too great to make the problem between the mother-in-law – the bride-in-law difficult to solve.

As a woman herself, when thinking about her days as a bride in the past, having a strict but loving mother-in-law has helped her to perfect herself today. Since then, People’s Artist Kim Xuan knows how to properly treat her daughter-in-law. Besides, she proved confusing when some mothers-in-law had thoughts “In the past, it was too hard, so now I want to exile my daughter-in-law as much as I do”.

The female artist was also very surprised when Dr. To Nhi A shared: “Because of the stereotypes of the Eastern culture that ‘overlap with class’ and do not exist alone, that has created the current situation that … young girls hate their mother-in-law even when they do not know they have one. husband or not ”.

This is invisible, making the image of the mother-in-law distorted in the eyes of the bridesmaids, creating a certain precaution even before meeting the other party. On the contrary, on the side of the mother-in-law, they also have certain prejudices created from their own experience of “being a bride” and the fear of losing a son also complicates the relationship with her daughter-in-law.

MC Ngo Nhu Quynh said, being a good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not only natural, but it takes effort. The female MC said that when it comes to the mother-in-law relationship – the bride-in-law, usually everyone will pay attention to “learning to be a bride” but forget the aspect of “learning to be a mother-in-law”.

People’s Artist Kim Xuan immediately expressed: “First of all, it must be confirmed that this is a very good phrase. Maybe a lot of people my age, who are older than me or who are preparing to have a daughter-in-law … will say: Why learn to be a mother-in-law? Learning for what? Because they think they are parents, their thinking is that their children must follow.

I feel lucky because being an actress gives me a lot of experience and experience when transforming into many different mothers-in-law. Since then, I know what is right and what is wrong to have a moderation in the way of treating her daughter-in-law, so learning to be a mother-in-law is essential ”.

She continued to confess: “I don’t know if I learned from the films I learned from acting or learned unconsciously, but now I learn this: Even in my family, each member is not sure about the same opinion, sometimes they are It took a long time for a young girl to come to her family, through a time of inquiry, to live with a son. me, give me a lovely, smart grandchild and work like a hard bee even my youth only know for my family.

And what is her joy in return? Is a holiday with the family on vacation. That joy is too lovely, reasonable. There may be very small mistakes but it is a daily life, should I force them to make it bigger to immobilize between the two women in the house, and the most guilty person is my son, should there be that? I feel absolutely no “.

The advice that People’s Artist Kim Xuan gives to mothers-in-law today is to get rid of deep thoughts, just live and think simple. All the things that make you feel light, make the whole family happy and happy should be done, do not let the situation of “daughter-in-law in case of mother-in-law, mother-in-law looking at daughter-in-law” accidentally makes the atmosphere family becomes stressed.

“In my opinion, just live comfortably and especially think about what kind of family we are, the new member to my family must also give people time to integrate. Not 1 minute and 1 second. ‘ You have to be like this, your house is like that, you mustn’t be wrong … ‘God, that pressure is terrible “, People’s Artist Kim Xuan said.

“When Thanh Phuong’s son and daughter-in-law asked for them separately, I was shocked”

Talking about the relationship within her own family, People’s Artist Kim Xuan said she was shocked for half a year when her son left: “Everyone thinks I am living with my son and daughter-in-law Thanh Phuong, but now I live separately. My wife and I only gave birth to Huy Luan. I don’t pamper my child, but whatever I say he is still my only son, so for me, his son is number 1.

I love them, I love them and there are some things that I don’t say, but I always look forward to them. I always listen to her opening the door when she is singing in the tea room every night. Everywhere I go, I will pass by my floor and say: ‘Mom, I’m going home’. Therefore, when Huy Luan, his son and his daughter-in-law Thanh Phuong proposed to live separately, I was shocked, really shocked.

I think, I built a house only for the purpose of the whole family to live together, yet they demanded a separate residence. For about 6 months, my husband and I felt like being stressed, but my family did not say it. I am proud that I am a mother with no deterrence. “

She thought, if I say those words without thinking, it will make me burn forever and misunderstand me. Over the past 6 months, both People’s Artist Kim Xuan and her husband, apart from sad times, thought that their son did it once, but that was true.

“Firstly, Huy Luan and Thanh Phuong’s work hours are erratic, if they keep going home like this will affect their parents’ sleep, so they don’t want to disturb their parents. Fortunately, my son and daughter-in-law’s house is located in District 1, very convenient for their work.

Secondly, I remember myself from a few years ago and see, I myself also dreamed of having a private space so that my husband and I could freely joke around, speak loudly, and argue all opinions without. afraid of being known by parents. So it is true that I am sentimental about boys asking to live separately, but up to now, after 6 years have passed, I feel that their decisions are correct and I respect their decisions “, the female artist confided.

The girl who made her cooking skill was praised by her boyfriend’s family

Recently, on a forum that attracts 1 million users, a girl named NA confided about her unforgettable experience with her boyfriend’s debuting home. It is known that after a period of research, her boyfriend wants to bring her back to the family. At first, the girl was shy, but I think I have to go home to debut. When she returned to her boyfriend’s house, the lucky girl was greatly loved by her boyfriend’s family.

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That morning was Thanh Minh New Year, his boyfriend NA’s mother sent him to the market to buy sticky rice to burn incense, but since he woke up late, he sold all the sticky rice at the market. NA quickly bought sticky rice and peas on sticky rice in the admiration of her boyfriend’s family. Turns out … his mother doesn’t know what to eat

Finished sticky rice, NA and her boyfriend’s family together with chicken, fried spring rolls, cooked food to worship. After the meal, the boyfriend’s mother also invited her to stay for a few days to ask the secret of boiling the next cooked chicken, neither alive nor crushed.

Quote from this girlfriend’s confession:

“Yesterday, my lover asked me to come back to his hometown, he had a Tet holiday, I was shy at first, also afraid to come home, but I thought I had to come back to my home after all, so I agreed.

All of his family is enthusiastic, our guests, his parents and his sister are also very fond of me, making me feel less nervous and scared, this morning when Tet cleared my mother told me to go to the market to buy sticky rice, but I woke up late so I sold them all. I don’t know where to buy them, why don’t you tell me why I didn’t cook, I asked if I know you don’t know what to buy.

So I and my lover go to the market to buy sticky rice and beans to sticky rice. In the admiration of the whole family, especially my husband, we have to eat sticky rice from the market for a long time, but my wife does not know what to eat. After the sticky rice was finished, my father and lover went to make chicken, and I rolled fried spring rolls and cooked food to worship. After offering, the whole family sits together and eats happily, like a family, not considering you as a guest.

After eating, she invited me to stay for a few days to teach me how to cook, how to boil the chicken not overcooked, overcooked, made me shy. See, sisters, after that, find a lover, just look for a mother-in-law who can’t cook, life is happy and happy automatically. “

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NA’s funny story has attracted 13,000 likes and 2,800 comments from the online community. Everyone says this girl has all the elements: being skillful and lucky, she scored very high in the eyes of her boyfriend.

Not only that, some users also said that a mother-in-law who both does not know what to cook and cannot boil chickens is a ‘rare hard to find’ mother-in-law. In this lifetime, surely many girls want to be her daughter-in-law. Some bridesmaids also said that in the future we should also become such a mother-in-law so that the daughter-in-law can enjoy many “blessings”.

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“In the future I will be an exemplary mother-in-law like this”, Lan Anh user comments.

“Like me. On Tet, when I come home, my husband makes every pot of stewed meat that Mom looks at with admiring eyes, late at night, after finishing cleaning, I still try to drag down to the kitchen to ask how my recipe is for my mother to follow”, wrote by Uyen Nhi.

What to do to make a good impression on the debut day of your boyfriend’s house?

In order not to feel embarrassed, anxious and nervous when preparing to launch a boyfriend’s house, the girls should prepare themselves a few tips to avoid mistakes and win the sympathy of their family. to love.

Choose the right gift

In order to win the hearts of parents in the first debut, you cannot go empty-handed. Because in addition to the material value, it also shows your thoughtfulness and concern for your boyfriend’s family.

One note when choosing gifts for your boyfriend’s family is to choose items that should not be too expensive. Even when the boyfriend’s family is very well-off. You do not need to love your son’s family in material, give your sincerity and difference.

Choose the right outfit

When you first debut at your boyfriend’s house, you should dress neatly, neatly, clean, not too fussy and not too flattering.

You also need to look fresh on this release day, so put on a little accent to make your face look more vibrant. However, you should choose a light makeup style, avoid elaborate makeup or small details such as your hair, your accessories will also be carefully paid attention so try not to dye your hair too colored or too frilly accessories. check.

Be on time

Certainly, before taking you home to debut, he had a “appointment” with his parents before. Therefore, not only are you the one who is worried about and cares about this meeting, but also his family side. Do not waste too much time on makeup, clothes and then let the adults wait, you will completely lose that point.

Should cook, otherwise take the initiative to wash dishes

Every husband’s family likes a fast, sure daughter-in-law, so if you want to score points, take the initiative to suggest cooking. When you are not good at cooking, please quietly help with chores around the kitchen, do not try to show if you are not confident enough.

Be active in communication

One of the things that people will consider when you return is your speech, your voice, your attitude, and your behavior. Please keep the mind right from the smallest things such as greeting, walking, speaking, addressing …

Absolutely do not lose points because the over-nature makes people less sympathetic. Besides asking for information, you should also prepare a few small jokes to create a warm, happy atmosphere. Do not just sit and laugh or just ask his mother to ask you what to answer, please confidently ask about everyone’s health and work.

After graduating for a few years, we got married and stayed in the city to start a business. I work as an accountant, and he is a salesman.

From a difficult starting point, but he is a good person and has a good determination, I believe he will definitely give me a good life in the future, so even though there are quite a few people pursuing me, I still have no hesitation when choosing him.

As for my family, I am more fortunate than my husband because I have loving and supportive parents, my innocent brother and a gentle sister-in-law. They live with their parents in the countryside, so I can fly with confidence in the city.

As for my husband, he lost his father since he was in eighth grade, his mother and brother in the hometown are not in good health, so he always takes care of his family.

That is also the motivation for him to decide to study well and make a lot of money. After my marriage, my husband devoted his mind to his work, he was a capable person, so he was quickly promoted by the company to a higher position, and his salary also gradually increased.

In addition, he also works outside quite a lot, so after 3 years living together, we have bought his own apartment, no more renting.

Normally, when I go back to my hometown, my husband will give money to my mother and brother, but after the house is stable, my husband has discussed with me and will send them money every month.

He said that because both his mother and brother are weak, the economy is tight, and the older brother stays at home to take care of his old mother, and he also has to take care of all kinds of festivals in the countryside so that he can be assured of living in the city, so I don’t. protest.

Since then, every month right after receiving the salary, my husband always transfers 4 million dong to his brother’s account number.

Busy with work in the city, the hometown is far away, so my wife and I go home very little, usually about 4-5 times a year, but I still regularly phone to visit my mother-in-law and she talks very happily. .

Sometimes my sister-in-law and brother-in-law also call to ask for loans, the amount of money each time is not too large, so my wife and I never ask them to pay them back.

Last week, my wife and I returned to their hometown to play. I bought thoughtful gifts for their mother-in-law, husband, sister-in-law and gifts for their children. But when I stepped into the courtyard, the house was quiet because no one was in the house. We came to the backyard to find out that my mother-in-law was busy working on growing vegetables alone. Seeing us coming home, she was very happy, quickly washed her hands and told us to come inside.

When I asked where my sister-in-law was, my mother-in-law told her to bring her baby into town to play today. I feel that my mother is a bit thin, so I also talked that my wife and I still send money to us every month and ask me to buy more things for my mom to help me, and if you use it hard, she laughed awkwardly without saying anything .. I have begun to feel something is wrong.

When my mother-in-law took a shower, I walked around the house and found it strange that the bed was warm and soft, everything looked pretty and new, but the mother-in-law’s bed was very temporary.

Everything like blankets, curtains, pillows, and cushions is very old, in a very old fashion, not to be replaced. I think how could I have a good night’s sleep with this kind of bed, so I talked to my husband.

After that, we decided to ask the mother-in-law if there was any problem. At first, she dodged it, but we stopped in front of us after a lot of women.

Her mother-in-law said that the sister-in-law did not like her, but her brother was very obedient to her wife, so she was not treated very well. The money we sent back to her, she did not hold any money, but her sister-in-law kept. The food and drink were also meager, sometimes the family’s delicious food was closed to each other without thinking about their mother.

My mother also pity herself, sometimes crying alone but dare not say fear my husband and I are worried, the old woman herself will have to rely on her brother and her husband a lot, so she cannot make the relationship more stressful. ..

Hearing the story that I am really frustrated, my husband and I saved money to send home regularly, just hoping that my brother would stay home to take care of my mother-in-law, who would expect the outcome like this. My husband and I discussed and decided to pick up my mother to the city to live with, of course, they would not send money back every month.

Our sister-in-law and husband-in-law knew our intentions had no objection, perhaps they understood why we did so. I myself feel sad because I did not expect them to treat my mother and my husband’s heart like that.

But I am also worried that my mother, who is not used to living in the city, is sad, or I and my mother living close to each other also arise a conflict between mother-in-law – what about the bride … Is this our decision correct?

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When I was studying, I did not go over to his house to play too much, if I had, I only ate for a while and then went home. At that time I just felt that his mother was a meticulous caretaker for her children.

My brother and I went home to light our hometown, and went by motorbike. Before leaving, she reminded them to go out to wear scarves, gloves, and full hats because it was very cold.

That night, we came out from the countryside. As soon as I stepped inside the house, the first thing she reminded me was to go to the kitchen to get him a glass of warm water instead of asking if they were tired.

With the meal, she cooks well and reminds me well, I try to learn to cook according to the taste of the South, later I look after my husband.

I feel, she considers Nam the center of the universe, everyone has the responsibility to serve him attentively.

However, I did not think deeply, but only felt funny inside.

When I got home as a bride I was really disillusioned. My mother-in-law not only takes care of Nam like a child, but also loves him too much.

Men over 30 years old, but at 7:00 a.m., his mother went up to the room to knock on the door, urging her to brush her teeth and wash her face. The clothes I ironed the night before, she still did it the morning again, constantly criticizing the daughter-in-law for being careless.

Nam likes to eat shrimp but has to peel, my mother-in-law buys 1kg, peels it clean, takes off her head, and canned it for her son. Meals, Nam always has its own portion.

Before, every time he dated, Nam took me to eat raw salmon, and eat raw beef… I’ve never seen him say he can’t eat it.

However, when I cook or buy, my mother-in-law always tells Nam not to eat raw food.

I told my mother-in-law, I still saw him go out to eat normally. She immediately sang the song that her son had to please his daughter-in-law, with great respect.

“From a young age, he only likes to eat food that his mother cooks, poisonous things like that, you should never buy it again” – a gentle saying of her mother-in-law but the feeling of weighing a thousand tons. It is not only her reminder, but also her command.

I confided to Nam, he just kept quiet and then turned to other things. Occasionally, I just say a sentence: “Come on, dear, mom is old, it’s nothing to please her”.

Once I went on a business trip with my colleagues, the plane landed at 11 o’clock at night. After that, the group took the car from the airport to the office.

Nam actively texted that he would pick me up at the hospital, but half an hour later his mother-in-law called and told me to take a taxi back because he had a fever. I was a bit down, my heart started to panic.

If Nam did not call, I would go home by myself but I saw that my husband was interested, so I agreed to let him come. I don’t understand why, he got sick so quickly.

When he got home, Nam opened the door, his health was normal, he showed no signs of serious illness as announced by my mother-in-law.

My mother-in-law probably guessed my daughter-in-law, calling me out to scold: “It’s late at night, I called Nam to pick him up, along the dangerous traffic road. Mother is also alone, taking care of her family, she doesn’t rely on anyone “.

I work in the hospital, stay on night duty, and take a rest the next morning. My mother-in-law grumbled, asking me to find another job.

In her opinion, Nam makes money, so my job is to take care of him. In the morning, she cooks for her husband, ensures his health, sees him off to work. 4:30 pm must be present at the rice house.

After the meal, the fruit must be peeled to invite her husband. Fruits such as tangerines and oranges must also be peeled.

A series of regulations, rules … given by my mother-in-law, makes me really stuffy.

Meanwhile, Nam always obediently obeyed his mother. He never had his own stance. Always, mom says anything right.

I proposed to live separately or divorce but Nam did not agree. He blamed me petty, selfish.

I am depressed, do not need to cultivate a home anymore. Please give me advice!

According to VietnamNet