True maturity is mental maturity, not necessarily dependent on age.
True maturity is mental maturity, not necessarily dependent on age. There are people who are very old in age but do innocent things, do not know how to treat people. There are people who, despite their young age, know how to consider the matter rationally. Here are 5 things that are obvious in an adult.
Learn how to separate from a large family and take a separate view of marriage and family
There is a term called “to learn something”, which means that as an adult the child will imitate the parents’ words and actions and be deeply influenced by the parents.
What is the marriage of a parent, the children’s attitude toward marriage is probably the same. For example, parents quarreling every day, children will think that marriage is a bad thing, bringing pain to both parents. When parents divorce, the children will think the marriage is unreliable and will feel a bit guilty.
Have you ever wondered why poor children study hard? Did those kids realize the importance of reading? In fact, those children are brought up in a family that is materially poor but their parents are “not poor”.
In other words, parents have recognized the importance of reading and have taught their children about reading from a young age. Children learn and read more books, the more intelligent, talented and have the opportunity to become successful in the future.
If one day, you feel that you can live independently, not depend on a big family and have a certain concept of marriage and family, you are already mature.
Learn how to say goodbye to the past
One sage said: “Adults don’t ask about the past, intelligent people don’t ask about the present and talented people don’t ask about the future”.
When you contend with people and things of the past, you made nonsense. No matter how capable you are, you cannot go back to the past.
Since the past is over, let it go. If you can’t let it go, let the memory always exist, and it will fade away over time. When you do not think about the past, you will find that the past is something not worth mentioning, whether it is joy or sadness.
Learn to empathize, respect others, and understand others with your heart.
“An important mark of a mature personality: tolerance, generosity, and kindness,” Carnegie said.
Why can’t you understand others? Why do you want to crush people who are better than you? In fact, you’re too petty, selfish. Human heart is only the size of a fist, how many things can hold? As you try to understand others, you will find that each has their own set of challenges and weaknesses and good sides.
A mature person understands and is tolerant of others. Turn the strengths of others into your own. Adults who are good at understanding others, of course, have a broader resource network. If you understand others, you also have a broader vision.
Learn to respect ethical rules and believe that good things will pay off
Immature people often obey moral rules. For example, not stealing, picking up belongings, giving back the lost people, living honestly and upright. Even when living in accordance with morality, they may suffer disadvantages, but their souls are at ease.
Learn to be humble and “hide” your wealth and wisdom
When you were young, you really liked to show off. When anything or success is achieved, you want to share it with your friends and family as much as possible. Now, when you open Facebook, you will see thousands of posts with bragging content: Traveling, opening a restaurant, eating hot pot at home, getting a certificate …
If you look closely, you will see that there are always underground giants around you that do not boast anything.
Adults will know how to behave in a humble way. Even if they are richer or wiser than others, they still know how to hide their wealth and wisdom and reveal them only when necessary.
Quynh Trang/ According to Sohu
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