Have you ever gone through times when you couldn’t find a friend to listen to? The times when you feel lonely and sad but have no one to talk to? It’s time to ask yourself why in your long friends list, you don’t have any real friends! Different friends in our lives
Friends come and go. It is a fact of life. There are friends who were once very close and did not hesitate to express all their sincere thoughts and feelings in front of each other, but now they are no longer in contact. Some people have naturally disappeared from each other’s lives and some have left for personal reasons, individual changes in the process of growing up. When they leave, they take a part of us with them. Most of us often mistake “friends” for friends and set our expectations too high in that relationship. On the contrary, we also meet new people and see them as soulmates, ready to open up to them about everything in life. However, if that’s really the case, that’s great, but most of us often mistake “friends” for friends and set too high expectations in that relationship, but forget to observe their desire to be friends really, or just socializing. Identify who you want to build true friendships with Friends may be different in personality and opinion, but there must be similarity in thinking and ability. Not everyone is suitable for building a genuine, high-quality friendship. Different people will vibrate at different levels of consciousness and that will help you filter out who you can connect with. For example: A person with low self-esteem would not be suitable to be friends with an overconfident or ostentatious person; A courageous, experimental person would not be suitable to play too closely with someone who only speaks loudly but dares not to act. Because this will cause a situation where one person restrains/depends on the other, or one person is influenced/disadvantaged by the other. It’s almost a parasite-host, not a true friendship. Friends can be different in personality and opinion, but there must be similarity in thinking and ability (maybe in 2 different aspects, but cannot be too big of a difference). More importantly, the two words match. What true friendships have in common Sticky bonded friendships often have things in common. Analyzing the admirably attached types of friendship, we can see the common points: – They are always there for each other in difficult times or down times in life and help lift spirits. – They have never evaluated and criticized each other for the mistakes of the opponent, They are also not negative with the mistakes, the moves that go into the ground of their friends. – More successful people always support and encourage their friends in all aspects of life. The less successful people, instead of envious and secretly pulling each other down, they admire and appreciate the support of their best friend. – Their friendship usually evolves from a common environment, such as school, workplace, business project, etc.. There they started with win-win and mutual support, so When friendship sprouts it will grow into a very sturdy old tree. Be a best friend before looking for best friends Before I expect to find a good friend, I have to become a good friend myself! Before I expect to find a good friend, I have to become a good friend myself. We must learn to listen and share, build trust with friends by supporting and helping them when they need it. Support your friend’s positive decisions as well as encourage them to practice good habits, experience interesting, interesting things… We also need to learn to put the needs of others before our own. myself. And care about what others are going through in their lives. Things that make a friendship stronger and stronger Without the following, the friendship will break at any time. The starting point for true, true friendships is unconditional kindness, non-judgment, support, and mutual respect. In particular, it must be coming from 2 sides. Without these things, the friendship will “break” at any time.
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