People’s Artist Kim Xuan himself was shocked for half a year when his son wanted to live separately.
In the program Weekend story On VTV this week, there was the appearance of a female artist loved by many audiences – People’s Artist Kim Xuan. Here, People’s Artist Kim Xuan had a conversation with MC Ngo Nhu Quynh and Psychological Doctor To Nhi A about a topic that is considered eternal in family life, which is the relationship between mother-in-law and the bride.
The relationship between mother-in-law – bride-in-law is a long and controversial topic not only in Vietnam but also in the world. Usually, people think that daughter-in-law is always at a disadvantage in this story. But perhaps times have changed when so many mothers now have to come together to share and learn how to be a mother-in-law. And from the perspective of People’s Artist Kim Xuan, many people have to be confused.
People’s Artist Kim Xuan: “I learned how to be a mother-in-law unconsciously”
People’s Artist Kim Xuan said that the common mentality of mothers, including mothers-in-law who have a daughter to marry, is mostly prejudiced about this relationship. The female artist pointed out that the individualism was too great to make the problem between the mother-in-law – the bride-in-law difficult to solve.
As a woman herself, when thinking about her days as a bride in the past, having a strict but loving mother-in-law has helped her to perfect herself today. Since then, People’s Artist Kim Xuan knows how to properly treat her daughter-in-law. Besides, she proved confusing when some mothers-in-law had thoughts “In the past, it was too hard, so now I want to exile my daughter-in-law as much as I do”.
The female artist was also very surprised when Dr. To Nhi A shared: “Because of the stereotypes of the Eastern culture that ‘overlap with class’ and do not exist alone, that has created the current situation that … young girls hate their mother-in-law even when they do not know they have one. husband or not ”.
This is invisible, making the image of the mother-in-law distorted in the eyes of the bridesmaids, creating a certain precaution even before meeting the other party. On the contrary, on the side of the mother-in-law, they also have certain prejudices created from their own experience of “being a bride” and the fear of losing a son also complicates the relationship with her daughter-in-law.
MC Ngo Nhu Quynh said, being a good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not only natural, but it takes effort. The female MC said that when it comes to the mother-in-law relationship – the bride-in-law, usually everyone will pay attention to “learning to be a bride” but forget the aspect of “learning to be a mother-in-law”.
People’s Artist Kim Xuan immediately expressed: “First of all, it must be confirmed that this is a very good phrase. Maybe a lot of people my age, who are older than me or who are preparing to have a daughter-in-law … will say: Why learn to be a mother-in-law? Learning for what? Because they think they are parents, their thinking is that their children must follow.
I feel lucky because being an actress gives me a lot of experience and experience when transforming into many different mothers-in-law. Since then, I know what is right and what is wrong to have a moderation in the way of treating her daughter-in-law, so learning to be a mother-in-law is essential ”.
She continued to confess: “I don’t know if I learned from the films I learned from acting or learned unconsciously, but now I learn this: Even in my family, each member is not sure about the same opinion, sometimes they are It took a long time for a young girl to come to her family, through a time of inquiry, to live with a son. me, give me a lovely, smart grandchild and work like a hard bee even my youth only know for my family.
And what is her joy in return? Is a holiday with the family on vacation. That joy is too lovely, reasonable. There may be very small mistakes but it is a daily life, should I force them to make it bigger to immobilize between the two women in the house, and the most guilty person is my son, should there be that? I feel absolutely no “.
The advice that People’s Artist Kim Xuan gives to mothers-in-law today is to get rid of deep thoughts, just live and think simple. All the things that make you feel light, make the whole family happy and happy should be done, do not let the situation of “daughter-in-law in case of mother-in-law, mother-in-law looking at daughter-in-law” accidentally makes the atmosphere family becomes stressed.
“In my opinion, just live comfortably and especially think about what kind of family we are, the new member to my family must also give people time to integrate. Not 1 minute and 1 second. ‘ You have to be like this, your house is like that, you mustn’t be wrong … ‘God, that pressure is terrible “, People’s Artist Kim Xuan said.
“When Thanh Phuong’s son and daughter-in-law asked for them separately, I was shocked”
Talking about the relationship within her own family, People’s Artist Kim Xuan said she was shocked for half a year when her son left: “Everyone thinks I am living with my son and daughter-in-law Thanh Phuong, but now I live separately. My wife and I only gave birth to Huy Luan. I don’t pamper my child, but whatever I say he is still my only son, so for me, his son is number 1.
I love them, I love them and there are some things that I don’t say, but I always look forward to them. I always listen to her opening the door when she is singing in the tea room every night. Everywhere I go, I will pass by my floor and say: ‘Mom, I’m going home’. Therefore, when Huy Luan, his son and his daughter-in-law Thanh Phuong proposed to live separately, I was shocked, really shocked.
I think, I built a house only for the purpose of the whole family to live together, yet they demanded a separate residence. For about 6 months, my husband and I felt like being stressed, but my family did not say it. I am proud that I am a mother with no deterrence. “
She thought, if I say those words without thinking, it will make me burn forever and misunderstand me. Over the past 6 months, both People’s Artist Kim Xuan and her husband, apart from sad times, thought that their son did it once, but that was true.
“Firstly, Huy Luan and Thanh Phuong’s work hours are erratic, if they keep going home like this will affect their parents’ sleep, so they don’t want to disturb their parents. Fortunately, my son and daughter-in-law’s house is located in District 1, very convenient for their work.
Secondly, I remember myself from a few years ago and see, I myself also dreamed of having a private space so that my husband and I could freely joke around, speak loudly, and argue all opinions without. afraid of being known by parents. So it is true that I am sentimental about boys asking to live separately, but up to now, after 6 years have passed, I feel that their decisions are correct and I respect their decisions “, the female artist confided.
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