I want a divorce after a month of marriage because my mother-in-law always considers son as the center of the universe, the whole family has the responsibility to serve him attentively.
I work as a nurse at a state hospital, have just been married for a month but am planning to divorce. This oppressive and frustrating life scene makes me lose all my feelings for him.
The man I used to love and idolized by his masculinity and maturity suddenly disappeared. In front of my eyes right now is a child, overshadowed by her mother.
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When I was studying, I did not go over to his house to play too much, if I had, I only ate for a while and then went home. At that time I just felt that his mother was a meticulous caretaker for her children.
My brother and I went home to light our hometown, and went by motorbike. Before leaving, she reminded them to go out to wear scarves, gloves, and full hats because it was very cold.
That night, we came out from the countryside. As soon as I stepped inside the house, the first thing she reminded me was to go to the kitchen to get him a glass of warm water instead of asking if they were tired.
With the meal, she cooks well and reminds me well, I try to learn to cook according to the taste of the South, later I look after my husband.
I feel, she considers Nam the center of the universe, everyone has the responsibility to serve him attentively.
However, I did not think deeply, but only felt funny inside.
When I got home as a bride I was really disillusioned. My mother-in-law not only takes care of Nam like a child, but also loves him too much.
Men over 30 years old, but at 7:00 a.m., his mother went up to the room to knock on the door, urging her to brush her teeth and wash her face. The clothes I ironed the night before, she still did it the morning again, constantly criticizing the daughter-in-law for being careless.
Nam likes to eat shrimp but has to peel, my mother-in-law buys 1kg, peels it clean, takes off her head, and canned it for her son. Meals, Nam always has its own portion.
Before, every time he dated, Nam took me to eat raw salmon, and eat raw beef… I’ve never seen him say he can’t eat it.
However, when I cook or buy, my mother-in-law always tells Nam not to eat raw food.
I told my mother-in-law, I still saw him go out to eat normally. She immediately sang the song that her son had to please his daughter-in-law, with great respect.
“From a young age, he only likes to eat food that his mother cooks, poisonous things like that, you should never buy it again” – a gentle saying of her mother-in-law but the feeling of weighing a thousand tons. It is not only her reminder, but also her command.
I confided to Nam, he just kept quiet and then turned to other things. Occasionally, I just say a sentence: “Come on, dear, mom is old, it’s nothing to please her”.
Once I went on a business trip with my colleagues, the plane landed at 11 o’clock at night. After that, the group took the car from the airport to the office.
Nam actively texted that he would pick me up at the hospital, but half an hour later his mother-in-law called and told me to take a taxi back because he had a fever. I was a bit down, my heart started to panic.
If Nam did not call, I would go home by myself but I saw that my husband was interested, so I agreed to let him come. I don’t understand why, he got sick so quickly.
When he got home, Nam opened the door, his health was normal, he showed no signs of serious illness as announced by my mother-in-law.
My mother-in-law probably guessed my daughter-in-law, calling me out to scold: “It’s late at night, I called Nam to pick him up, along the dangerous traffic road. Mother is also alone, taking care of her family, she doesn’t rely on anyone “.
I work in the hospital, stay on night duty, and take a rest the next morning. My mother-in-law grumbled, asking me to find another job.
In her opinion, Nam makes money, so my job is to take care of him. In the morning, she cooks for her husband, ensures his health, sees him off to work. 4:30 pm must be present at the rice house.
After the meal, the fruit must be peeled to invite her husband. Fruits such as tangerines and oranges must also be peeled.
A series of regulations, rules … given by my mother-in-law, makes me really stuffy.
Meanwhile, Nam always obediently obeyed his mother. He never had his own stance. Always, mom says anything right.
I proposed to live separately or divorce but Nam did not agree. He blamed me petty, selfish.
I am depressed, do not need to cultivate a home anymore. Please give me advice!
According to VietnamNet
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