The husband gives his wife 30 million per month but does the wrong thing

Indeed, this is a difficult problem in terms of both economic and emotional interests.
Commenting under stories of adultery is usually: “Divorce, don’t live with that traitor”. However, only when they are in that very situation can women understand, there are so many binding things that make it difficult for them to make a definitive decision.

The wife in the story below shares her thoughts and feelings to ask the online community for advice. She said: “My husband went on a trip with his own company and searched and searched for arousal massage in that area, looking for a girl to call on the spot and a girl to call the island. I do not know how to look, but have gone yet and have had contact with the calling girl yet. Asked, I was tired to sleep early last night. Briefly tell about her situation: 28 years old, her mother has not worked yet, has a 3-month-old daughter. Currently living in a rental apartment alone, the cumulative income of 50-80 million a month (this income in the field of my husband’s career), the husband’s salary to give his wife 30 million monthly. General debt 1 billion 2. My grandmother’s family has no conditions, she currently raises her younger sibling and is about to graduate and lives with her. Talking briefly about my husband: good, comfortable personality with his wife about money issues, not disciplined, knows how to make money but carelessly does housework not to support his wife and children, also loves his children but is lazy and addicted to cigarettes. Doesn’t allow carrying much, or goes out, rarely stays at home. A few months ago, when I was about to go away, my husband also looked for a girl to call the area that was going to be there, I knew it and made it difficult to stay home, this time again. At present, if she divorces, the daughter loses her father and the other debt does not know how to resolve. I am not making a big deal of waiting for my husband to check call history to see if I have called a girl and have sex yet. If we just endure and don’t make a big deal to keep the family, how long will it last? When I found out that I could only hold my baby and cry, be compassionate for my daughter, I have such a husband and a father should not be stigmatized. Someone has experience to help me advise how to solve it, I am so miserable I can’t cry anymore. If you do not sympathize, please do not say bitter words! “. This is a fairly realistic story with many wives who are trapped in burdens that make them not determined enough to let go. Most netizens sympathized and advised her to endure, wait for her older child, and then settle it completely. But perhaps, this husband has such a sick hobby just to serve his sexual needs, not the intention of leaving his wife. Surely he and many other men consider it normal, that is still responsible for his family, still paying his wife fully, the other pleasure is just for “comfort”. Like her wife said, although she was suffering, although this was not the first time, she was still aware of her husband’s “effect” on his family and his strengths. If put on the scale, the amount of money he gives to his wife is not small and her ability to earn money is enough to take care of the mother and daughter’s life. The problem is that they have a large amount of debt in common. Postpartum women are very disadvantaged, this is a time of testing the husband’s love and courage. At this stage, men are most likely to cheat because their wives are decapitated, get used to life and do not meet the husband’s needs. But marriage is about trying together, sharing together and solving difficulties together, not living in anticipation and planning. Thinking, what her wife needs to do is collect enough evidence of her husband’s “crime”, have a frank conversation, not harshly, remove the knots in his heart. “Forcing” him to put himself in his wife’s shoes thinking about how he would feel in return. That conversation is an opportunity for you to open up and show your seriousness, toughness, goodwill to hear your husband confide, and want to heal your family. If necessary, subtly get your parents-in-law involved, let them analyze for him how dangerous a loose lifestyle, “pay off the cake” is. Regardless of the circumstances in which we women, we must be very alert and skillful to benefit us, we should not be too rigid, but maybe we can save it and be “absolutely”, then be clear when needed. to the step of divorce.