This fourth time, she will unilaterally apply for a divorce. Living together or divorced? Both solutions suffer. And I will choose less painful solutions, to have the right to love myself.
Illustration She tried to take a deep breath and exhale evenly. This way she learned from her friend. Outside, the voice of her mother-in-law was ceaselessly cruel: “Obviously disgusting, there are a few letters that I wanted to rebel. Men, people are part, so we must know our fate! There were people who took the beating like rice, but still tried to keep the door warm, over here, there were only a couple of slaps that made me spoiled. women and girls have to know how to endure, make sacrifices, a little bit struggling like leeches, if they need to be lime, they have to break up early “. Mother-in-law said it for a while and then went out of the house. Sitting alone in the room she has been attached to for the past 10 years, tears began to fall. She buried her face and bit her teeth in the pillow and cried. “Cry, just cry. Cry to wash away the gloomy days,” her friend once told her. 
This fourth time, she will unilaterally apply for a divorce. Illustration Yesterday, she went home to talk to her parents about her divorce problem. She just opened her words, instead of asking her son the cause of being upset, her father rolled his eyes: “This house does not leave her husband. You are a teacher, teach people, now you leave your husband. Who do you teach? I told you not to listen, you leave your husband and then go anywhere. The sandy soil I have changed to the red book name for your two brothers, so you don’t have anything “. Her mother just kept silent, crying and crying: “How can you be so miserable when you eat and study!”. She belongs to the second half of 8X generation but is still deeply ingrained in her mother’s old thought. Remembering the day when she returned to her husband’s house, it was only because of the mother’s admonition that “the boat follows the driver, the girl follows her husband. If a woman steps to marry, she will live as her husband’s family, die is her husband’s ghost” but she is single because husband, blind sacrifice. After completing the Pedagogical University, after graduating from school, she asked to return to the commune secondary school to teach near her home. Having been teaching for nearly 2 years, researching through matchmaking, she nodded to marry him because … just near the house, the family has conditions. He only finished high school and his parents allowed him to open a shop selling electrical appliances. His work is favorable, the couple is well-off economically. Anyone outside can see that her life is happy and peaceful. But only “in the blanket will know that the blanket has lice”. Patriarch, selfish and unjustifiably jealous. Knowing her husband is jealous, she is always withdrawn, minimizing meetings and contact. Even having to receive male and female parents is absolutely avoided. All her life, she dared not go to class meetings and halls because … he did not agree. Many times she gently analyzed and explained to him to understand, but he refused to listen. Wherever she went, she refused to ask him to go with him. She knows, deep down in his heart, he has a little self-esteem because he “does not study as much as her”. She has told him countless times that it is important that husband and wife love, understand, and respect each other; that she is always grateful because he is good at making money, and is an economic support for her mother and daughter. At first, hearing his wife say, he just hummed, after giving birth, he scolded her for “many words” and blamed her for the crime of liking … “teaching her husband”. Since then, she chose to be silent and pamper him. She still tells her students about the woman’s self-esteem and confidence. During the extracurricular lessons, she taught her children about gender equality, the criteria of a modern woman … Watching her children attentively, her eyes filled with dreams, her heart was excited but every time she turned home, she finds herself petty again. Once, passing by a group of students, she overheard a female student say to her friends: “That’s all for my aunt at school, but at home it is not different from me, afraid of her husband …”. She felt numb. The day before, he came home from late drinking, did not know who said, but he asked her to … quit teaching. He said, when she went to teach, she paid three poles and three dong, she didn’t have enough money for electricity and water, just stay at home to cook and look after her children, she would have everything. Knowing he was a bit of a gas, she did not argue. Seeing her silent, he thought she agreed. The next morning, she stole her schoolbag, he pulled back, threw her stuff. He slandered her and then gave her the conditions to make her choose: “Either profession, or family”. He was so unreasonable, she couldn’t take it anymore. And for the first time after 10 years of being his wife, she firmly protested. He took the right to be a husband, thinking that she was a mess, so he beat her to … teach. She looked back at herself, she never seemed to know how to live and love properly. With him, she only knew obedience and silence. Yesterday, she found a small house to rent. I will move out there while waiting for the court to settle. He tore 3 divorce papers in front of her with the statement: “You can’t leave me to death”. But this fourth time, she will unilaterally apply for a divorce. Living together or divorced? Both solutions suffer. And I will choose less painful solutions, to have the right to love myself.
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