Many women “don’t know how to love themselves”, endure hurts and sufferings every day. But how to love yourself and love yourself properly to be happy?
Many people are disillusioned when entering marriage, they complain of reprimand and misery in all kinds … as follows:
- I love him all, sacrificing wholeheartedly with her husband and her husband’s family. But they betrayed me.
I got married, knowing that my husband’s family owes quite a large amount, so I tried to work for the family and pay back the husband’s family. But after paying the debt, they kicked me out of the house with empty hands …
When you love each other, it’s very beautiful, you have little quarrel and I also give in to you and apologize to you. Whenever I go, I want you to go. I am pregnant, knowing that you do not have a stable job, you will not be able to take care of the mother and child, so you ask for an abortion to try (if you decide to abort, you will become a single mother).
When I saw you saying that it would be your responsibility to take care of the mother and daughter – I was so happy, I thought it was true love. But since the wedding, to the time of birth (she gave birth by caesarean section), I did not ask questions or confide in you, and went everywhere alone. I want to sleep separately, and I often cry alone, often sad and melancholy, partly because of fatigue, morning sickness, not knowing to talk to anyone, so I fell into depression. The husband does not care for the mother and child, nor is she for herself. I’m really tired, want to rescue, but I’m afraid that a daughter is born without the love of her father …
- My husband loves fishing differently. He went fishing every day from 8:00 am to 9:00 pm at night. When I was pregnant and gave birth, I couldn’t stay home with my wife for a day. Many times when my sick children call home to buy medicine, they cannot come home and tell them if they are finished, they can come back. My parents-in-law loved my mother and my son so much that they had an argument that they were willing to kick my husband out on the street. But I became more and more depressed, did not want to continue with my husband. Thinking a lot makes me lose sleep, I have to use sedatives every day to sleep.
Many people are disillusioned when entering marriage. Illustration.
Many women have fallen into miserable situations, suffering from emotional and physical pain every day just because they “do not know how to love themselves” properly.
How to love yourself properly? Most women get married and are only busy taking care of their husbands and children, making their husband’s family happy. In their mind then just think of doing everything to be good for you, good for your husband … but accidentally forget the feeling of the most important person – that is yourself.
Women learn to love themselves properly. Illustration.
Whenever you feel upset, sad, angry … tend to run outside to find the person who caused the sadness, the anger … (why hurt me, why betray me to me? this breakdown …?). It seems that you keep looking outward constantly without spending quality time on yourself.
Only when you live a happy life with yourself will you be happy. If you yourself still have a lot of hurt, a lot of suffering, then will it be happy to live with others? So ladies, please do whatever you want. When my husband comes home late, he will eat first and go to bed early, read some books, or learn to meditate to understand and to be happy with himself.
Everyone deserves to be happy, and so do you. If you want to be happier every day but do not know where to start, do not know how, let Tue An help you step by step to spark happiness behind you.
- Treat yourself well;
Give more, ask for less;
Willing to say “no” to what you don’t want;
Invest time and emotions in positive relationships;
- Make time for yourself: be quiet, breathe, relax;
Ignoring observations and judgments from others;
Smile more;
Avoid blaming, avoid complaining;
Set small goals every day.
Women need to act immediately on the above things to be happy with themselves every day, to achieve happiness now, to make life and relationships happier around them.
Tue An
Family Happiness consultant
(CEO Happiness Consulting and Training Company Limited)
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