Oriental Times Review丨”Peeking at his son’s part-time job”, parents must learn to let go

Oriental Times Review丨”Peeking at his son’s part-time job”, parents must learn to let go

Author: Yang Zhaoqing Source: LONDON draft selection: Yuting Lepidii

Recently, a pair of parents in Taizhou City, Jiangsu Province peeked at their working son outside the window. The father of the child said that the child understands that it is not easy for his parents to go out to work, and he almost fell into tears when he saw the figure of the child working. (The Paper on April 22)

In the context of the miniaturization of the family structure, even the “workers” with ordinary backgrounds will “no matter how hard they are for their children”; watching the son who grew up in his coat to stretch out his hand for food to open his mouth, he was busy serving and delivering food in the restaurant. Cutlery and entertaining guests should not be neglected for a moment. Aiko’s eager parents have mixed flavors. On the one hand, they are gratified that their son is sensible, and they also understand that the child needs to be self-reliant and self-reliant sooner or later; on the other hand, parents who are used to holding their children in their palms still feel distressed and uncomfortable seeing their children suffer.

Faced with children who are not sufficiently socialized, facing children who have left asylum and taking care of them for the first time, parents who worry about and worry about their sons who are busy or not tired at work, want to go to the restaurant where their son works; be afraid of children Knowing, they chose to peek out the window. The sincere and simple “parental heart” is a microcosm of many parents, and it is easy to cause emotional resonance and psychological resonance. Facing the unexpected arrival of his parents, his son was taken aback for a moment, and then he waved his hand to signal them to leave.

In an era of prevalent symbolic interaction, “wave hands” is not only a wave of tribute to parents, but also an emotional expression; in silent communication, the son uses the gesture of waved hands to convey information “silently is better than sound at this time”— —I can do my job well, so please feel free to go back. Although it looks a little immature, the courageous, responsible, persevering, self-reliant “masculinity” of this young man will not be compromised by his appearance.

Society is a university without walls, and working in a restaurant can also gain a lot. Whether it is to improve communication and expression skills, improve organization and coordination, or sharpen mind and strengthen patience, part-time job not only promotes self-reliance and self-reliance, but also allows the young man to re-recognize and discover himself, which helps him to continuously adjust and improve himself. Restaurant waiters can not only exercise their bodies, but also exercise their ability to perceive words, opinions and behaviors; more importantly, in the process of dealing with all kinds of customers, it helps fledgling young people to enrich their understanding of human nature and understanding of reality. And cognition of society.

From relying on their parents to enjoy their achievements to being busy on self-reliance, the growth of adolescents needs to experience a painful process of breaking through the cocoon and becoming a butterfly. Only in the wind and waves and the big waves, can we grow up and strengthen our muscles and bones. Only when we have a stronger spiritual world and a more rational and mature psychology, can we not bow to difficulties or be overwhelmed by setbacks in the face of pressure and challenges. For the “post-00s”, this is not only an indispensable socialization, but also an irreplaceable spiritual growth; for parents, not only do they teach by precepts and deeds, and give enough care and companionship, but also master the art of “letting go” , Let children fly higher and farther.

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