Wen/Qianhe Are there any children like this around you: He is smart and cute, enthusiastic and cheerful. Whether it is chatting or playing, he is very good in fields other than learning. He learns to work hard and is never playful. In front of the desk and under the lamp, there is always a figure of him studying hard. But in an exam, their scores are always at the bottom. No matter how hard the parents and children work hard, their academic performance is like being cursed, and they can’t improve. Some people say that they are very smart, but they don’t know how to learn; Some people say that they are not careful, so their grades are not excellent; Some people say they are stupid! But the real reason that may make you unimaginable is that these clever stupid children have a physical defect called “dyslexia”!

He is not a stupid kid, he just has dyslexia

At Beijing Boys School, when I was young, I was a kid who was personally praised.

Before the age of 6, he was stupid and clever.

Introducing himself in front of everyone, he is cheerful and confident, without stage fright.

He said loudly:

“Hello everyone, my name is Xu Kaiyi, I will tell you a joke…”

Playing a prank at home, he hid one of his grandma’s slippers.

Mom asked where the shoes were, and he stretched his voice and said:

“I heard that he seems to ran out to get married with one of his grandfather’s slippers.”

It’s such a lovely child, and his grades start to bottom out as soon as he enters elementary school.

The mother did not believe that her son had intellectual problems. The husband and wife took turns in the “chicken baby”. Even the grandmother who graduated from Tsinghua University was dispatched, but it still failed.

In the end, my mother discovered the problem while studying at school.

A simple paragraph of only 20 or 30 words, read it after proofreading, is either a typo, or an addition, an omission, or a reverse order.

Read “blue-green parrot” as “blue parrot”;

Read “farmers” as “farms”;

Read “close friend” as “close friend”…

If you have never heard of “dyslexia”, you will most likely think that this child is careless, lazy, and not serious.

But we don’t know that a paragraph of text that is simple to us normal people is flickering in the eyes of the school and it is maddening.

Literacy, reading, and dictation are things that are easy for normal children to do, but it is difficult for schools to reach the sky.

The words were strange pictures in his eyes, and he couldn’t remember no matter how hard he tried.

Because of dyslexia, the school always confuses characters with similar fonts and sounds, and some characters are copied incorrectly.

For a 150-word composition, it took him five or six hours from the oral output to the transcript.

In the lower grades, most of the children in the class got 100 points in the exam, but the school often failed.

In the CCTV documentary “I’m Not a Stupid Kid”, the school’s story is told in a tender way.

This documentary reflecting the growth of children with dyslexia also made many people understand for the first time what “dyslexia” is.

Simply put, “dyslexia” is a reading and spelling disorder caused by the incoordination of the brain’s comprehensive processing of visual and auditory information.

Studies have shown that about 5%-8% of school-age children have dyslexia.

Their emotions and intelligence are normal, and they have received corresponding education, but their reading level does not match their intelligence level.

And compared to other areas of special education, people know little about dyslexia.

Therefore, children with dyslexia are a group that is easily neglected.

It is a natural defect, but also an acquired loneliness

In the documentary “I’m Not a Stupid Child”, in addition to school, there are two other children with dyslexia.

They have very different personalities and live in three different families, but they are bothered by the same problems.

Ruoxi is a girl, and doing homework every night, she arches herself, lying on the desk and writing and counting hard.

But compared to her sister who didn’t work hard but had always been a “student tyrant”, her efforts seemed so futile.

Mom said:

“My daughter’s best grade is the third from the bottom once in the exam. Usually, she is the first and second from the bottom.”

The most sympathetic of the three children is the boy Qunxiao.

Qun Xiao is a hard-working and self-demanding child.

But the severe dyslexia made him unable to remember a single word twenty or thirty times.

Qun Xiao, who couldn’t remember Chinese characters, dug holes one by one in the wall with his hands.

He even used a pen to “engrave” the words on his hand, because he said, “The more painful the engraving, the stronger the memory”.

But compared to the obstacle itself, misunderstanding and loneliness are the most painful.

In a child with dyslexia, you will see a series of contradictory and puzzling phenomena.

The child may only get the evaluation of “sharp thinking and smart” yesterday, and today he got a report card that he could not bear to look directly at.

Therefore, these children are often labelled as “lazy”, “stupid”, and “making excuses not to learn”.

Was also discriminated against, reprimanded, and punished .

The school was called “trash” by the children in the class, and his classmates pointed his middle finger at him.

Ruoxi was reprimanded by the teacher:

“If you don’t want to learn, don’t learn it, just expel you.”

Qun Xiao was often laughed at by his classmates, and some even bullied him in front of his mother.

The most sad thing is the one thing Qunxiao’s father said.

When he was young, his father took Qun Xiao to Beijing to play. At the age of seven, he offered to worship Buddha and chose the wisdom Buddha and the lucky Buddha.

His wish is:

Pray that the Buddha of Wisdom will give him wisdom so that he will get better and not be laughed at. Pray for the lucky Buddha to protect him and drive away bad luck around him.

The love and acceptance of parents is a hard armor for children

Xiaoqun is a distressed child.

But fortunately, Qun Xiao’s parents have always used unconditional love to help him fight his defects.

A message from his parents on his birthday

In order to calm Qun Xiao’s mind, his mother patiently enlightened him not to compare scores with his classmates.

In order to help Qun Xiao remember the new characters, his mother came up with various ways to compile the characters into stories and tell him.

Even, in order for him to grow up in a more suitable environment, his mother quit a good job and accompanied him to school in Shanxi.

Mom once said to him:

“No matter what, Mom and Dad love you very much.

Not because of your hard work, we love you. There is no difference in this love because you are stronger or weaker than others.

It’s really great that you can do what you are today. It’s amazing. “

In the documentary, apart from Qun Xiao’s parents, the remaining two families are also doing their best to help their children fight against dyslexia.

After the school mother discovered her son’s dyslexia, she restrained her anxiety and patiently accompanies the child to study and exercise.

In order to prevent him from being isolated and discriminated against by his classmates.

Mom also actively organizes various gatherings for the children to help schools integrate into the collective.

Ruoxi’s mother tore through her homework due to learning problems and trained the child in angrily.

But in the end, she will clean up her mood and encourage her children time and time again.

Dang Ruoxi increased the Chinese score from 38 to 78.5.

She and her father specially prepared a certificate to praise the child’s progress and encourage the child.

For children with dyslexia, discrimination and misunderstandings in life go hand in hand.

Those malice from strangers hurt them deeply.

But the love and acceptance of their parents is their strongest armor, giving them the courage to face the world.

Defects are only islands, but advantages are like oceans

Some time ago, the new book “Different” by the male Chinese pop singer and music composer Xiao Jingteng was published.

In this autobiography, Xiao Jingteng tells the unknown “other side” of his growth.

He was also deeply troubled by “dyslexia”.

As a child, he couldn’t distinguish the labels of shampoo and body wash.

Can’t understand idioms, can’t remember staff.

Watching “Titanic” can’t keep up with the subtitles of the movie, I watched it 10 times to understand.

A lot of things that others can easily do, but he can’t do it no matter how hard he tries.

Although there are so many imperfections, he is never afraid to face himself.

Xiao Jingteng said: “My shortcomings have made me motivated.”

In hard exploration, “rock” allowed him to find an exit in life and made achievements in the field he was good at.

Xiao Jingteng’s experience has also made many people suffering from dyslexia see warmth and hope.

In fact, dyslexia is not so terrible.

Its essence is a local and independent defect, and there may be a sea of ​​advantages around it.

Although many people with dyslexia have difficulty reading and writing, they have amazing memory, communication and comprehension skills.

David Boyce, an American super lawyer who defended Microsoft, has dyslexia, but he has an extraordinary memory;

Brian Glazer, one of Hollywood’s most influential producers, also has dyslexia, but he is particularly good at communication and negotiation.

In addition, there are a long list of familiar names, Edison, Einstein, Beethoven, Kennedy…

When they were young, they were scolded as “stupid kids” because of learning difficulties and poor grades. Finally, scientists discovered that they all had dyslexia.

Although the path of growth is full of thorns, it does not prevent them from achieving success in their own fields.

Professor Shu Hua from the Department of Psychology of Beijing Normal University said:

“The most difficult stage for children with dyslexia is elementary school. As long as you help them survive, follow everyone, and wait for middle school, especially after high school and college, they will find their own tricks and use other strategies to deal with the problem of dyslexia. At that time their expertise can be used.”

In the opinion of many experts, dyslexia is not impossible to correct. As long as it is accurately identified and scientifically targeted, it can be overcome, and this requires extreme patient support from parents.

Every child is imperfect, but has a unique life

Children with dyslexia are, after all, a minority in our lives.

You may not have their painful experiences, but you may also encounter such troubles:

Other children ran happily, your children swayed as they walked;

Other children are cheerful and generous, your children are not good at communicating, timid and introverted;

Other kids get full marks easily, and your kids will only pass no matter how hard they work.

As parents, everyone wants their children to have extraordinary talents, but ordinary or even shortcomings are the norm in the world.

Just like in “I’m Not a Stupid Child”, the school mother said:

“My child, if there is no such problem, there will be that problem. There is always a problem that suits you!”

If you pursue perfection, not only children will be injured, but parents will also be anxious.

But if you use the eyes of love and acceptance, you will find:

Every child is a unique star on the earth.

Your child may not be able to “see ten lines at a glance”, but he is brave and strong;

Your child may be timid and introverted, but he is smart and kind.

Although they are not perfect, they have their own unique energy.

Even if one day, you find that he has nothing at all.

But being the most ordinary person is not a kind of happiness.

I hope that every parent can use the most sincere love and understanding to illuminate the life of their children.

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