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I want to pick up my mother-in-law to live with me because my sister-in-law is too much

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Frustrated with my husband and sister-in-law, my wife and I picked up my mother-in-law to live in the city with me, but I was also worried about whether this decision was correct or not.
My husband and I have loved each other since college, both are from the countryside and the family is not abundant, so they match well.

After graduating for a few years, we got married and stayed in the city to start a business. I work as an accountant, and he is a salesman.

From a difficult starting point, but he is a good person and has a good determination, I believe he will definitely give me a good life in the future, so even though there are quite a few people pursuing me, I still have no hesitation when choosing him.

As for my family, I am more fortunate than my husband because I have loving and supportive parents, my innocent brother and a gentle sister-in-law. They live with their parents in the countryside, so I can fly with confidence in the city.

As for my husband, he lost his father since he was in eighth grade, his mother and brother in the hometown are not in good health, so he always takes care of his family.

That is also the motivation for him to decide to study well and make a lot of money. After my marriage, my husband devoted his mind to his work, he was a capable person, so he was quickly promoted by the company to a higher position, and his salary also gradually increased.

In addition, he also works outside quite a lot, so after 3 years living together, we have bought his own apartment, no more renting.

Normally, when I go back to my hometown, my husband will give money to my mother and brother, but after the house is stable, my husband has discussed with me and will send them money every month.

He said that because both his mother and brother are weak, the economy is tight, and the older brother stays at home to take care of his old mother, and he also has to take care of all kinds of festivals in the countryside so that he can be assured of living in the city, so I don’t. protest.

Since then, every month right after receiving the salary, my husband always transfers 4 million dong to his brother’s account number.

Busy with work in the city, the hometown is far away, so my wife and I go home very little, usually about 4-5 times a year, but I still regularly phone to visit my mother-in-law and she talks very happily. .

Sometimes my sister-in-law and brother-in-law also call to ask for loans, the amount of money each time is not too large, so my wife and I never ask them to pay them back.

Last week, my wife and I returned to their hometown to play. I bought thoughtful gifts for their mother-in-law, husband, sister-in-law and gifts for their children. But when I stepped into the courtyard, the house was quiet because no one was in the house. We came to the backyard to find out that my mother-in-law was busy working on growing vegetables alone. Seeing us coming home, she was very happy, quickly washed her hands and told us to come inside.

When I asked where my sister-in-law was, my mother-in-law told her to bring her baby into town to play today. I feel that my mother is a bit thin, so I also talked that my wife and I still send money to us every month and ask me to buy more things for my mom to help me, and if you use it hard, she laughed awkwardly without saying anything .. I have begun to feel something is wrong.

When my mother-in-law took a shower, I walked around the house and found it strange that the bed was warm and soft, everything looked pretty and new, but the mother-in-law’s bed was very temporary.

Everything like blankets, curtains, pillows, and cushions is very old, in a very old fashion, not to be replaced. I think how could I have a good night’s sleep with this kind of bed, so I talked to my husband.

After that, we decided to ask the mother-in-law if there was any problem. At first, she dodged it, but we stopped in front of us after a lot of women.

Her mother-in-law said that the sister-in-law did not like her, but her brother was very obedient to her wife, so she was not treated very well. The money we sent back to her, she did not hold any money, but her sister-in-law kept. The food and drink were also meager, sometimes the family’s delicious food was closed to each other without thinking about their mother.

My mother also pity herself, sometimes crying alone but dare not say fear my husband and I are worried, the old woman herself will have to rely on her brother and her husband a lot, so she cannot make the relationship more stressful. ..

Hearing the story that I am really frustrated, my husband and I saved money to send home regularly, just hoping that my brother would stay home to take care of my mother-in-law, who would expect the outcome like this. My husband and I discussed and decided to pick up my mother to the city to live with, of course, they would not send money back every month.

Our sister-in-law and husband-in-law knew our intentions had no objection, perhaps they understood why we did so. I myself feel sad because I did not expect them to treat my mother and my husband’s heart like that.

But I am also worried that my mother, who is not used to living in the city, is sad, or I and my mother living close to each other also arise a conflict between mother-in-law – what about the bride … Is this our decision correct?

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